The reason most people can’t get turned on is stress and anxiety. Sex is as much about the mind as it is about the body, and it’s nearly impossible to get aroused when part of your brain is festering about the bills you still need to pay.
Stress is also a powerful energy suck, leaving less vitality for getting it on. Quieting your mind can help you tame your worries and stresses—because worrying won’t do you any good, especially while things are getting steamy in the bedroom.
A meditation practice allows you to focus all of your energy where it needs to be: on yourself and your partner.
CULTIVATE BETTER FOCUS AND ATTENTION SPAN
If you’re not able to focus during sex, you’re not going to have good sex. Period. Adding in a meditation practice to help is kind of a no-brainer.
Regularly taking 10 minutes a day to quiet down your mind, clear the clutter, and be in the moment makes it easier for you to fully dive in to the present when you are warming up the sheets. The fact is, if you are not fully present, your sex life and your partner’s will suffer. Everyone needs an attentive lover.
MEDITATION UNLOCKS MENTAL APHRODISIACS
When you’ve been in a relationship for many months or many years, a lot of us have a tendency to stop listening as intently to our partners. It’s kind of inevitable, but it really hurts intimacy. By practicing meditation regularly, you can relearn the ability to listen and rekindle the psychological connection you once had.
And believe it or not, this is as important as physical attraction in sex.
IT HELPS YOU BETTER EXIST IN THE MOMENT
Sex is all about being in the moment. You don’t want to be reviewing what you did at work today. You don’t want to think about what you’ll make for dinner when you’re done. You want to stay in the now and experience all the sensations and feelings that come with being completely engaged in sexual intercourse.
If you’ve been meditating regularly, that should be a familiar place to slip into. And, yes, it will drastically improve your sexual experience.
It doesn’t matter what type of meditation you do. The key is to find a small slice of time every day to tame your mind and rekindle your relationship to yourself. Get comfortable. Slow down. Tune in to your breath. Astounding improvements in your sex life will grow out of that mental self care.